Abstainers, Moderators, and a Lot of Cupcakes
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I like to think of myself as a fairly healthy eater – but one time, I totally let myself eat six freaking cupcakes in a day!
Okay okay, they were mini cupcakes…but still!
Then, this morning I was searching online, and I came across an article by Gretchen Rubin about moderation and abstaining. It struck me as interesting and reminded me of my hilarious cupcake debacle.
The inner turmoil of should I or shouldn’t I sometimes exists in my head, but other times I can easily say no to said treats and choose a healthier option.
We all know that not everyone is the same when it comes to how they work, what we like, or what our strengths or weaknesses are.
Why would how we make decisions be any different?
This is what Gretchen Rubin noticed as well, and so she has created a quiz to find out which one she is.
She feels more comfortable by abstaining altogether rather than giving in to temptation or attempting to measure such temptation.
If you’re tempted with delicious treats, you may want to be like the Cookie Monster and straight up demolish those cupcakes (hey, no judgment here! You heard my story!)
But the abstainer actually stays away from the temptation altogether and is better off for it.
If you’re thinking “that doesn’t sound like me, I know when to stop the temptation,” it may be because you are the second type.
You may be a moderator if you can easily, with not a lot of self-control, choose when to indulge, perhaps after a hard workout or a few days of no treats.
You can take your treat and eat it too – okay okay that’s corny, but you know when to stop eating.
If you’re a moderator, it doesn’t take a huge amount of self-control to do so.
Gretchen explains in her post that Pareto Principle (commonly known as the 80/20 rule – 80% abstaining, 20% cookies) doesn’t fit right for everyone.
For some, 100% may be better.
The abstainer actually thrives better with cold-turkey approaches, while moderators do better with a more relaxed approach.
As Gretchen explains in her post…
You’re a moderator if you…
– find that occasional indulgence heightens your pleasure–and strengthens your resolve
– get panicky at the thought of “never” getting or doing something
You’re an abstainer if you…
– have trouble stopping something once you’ve started
– aren’t tempted by things that you’ve decided are off-limits
Adapting Abstaining or Moderating For Business
This principle can actually work very well for an entrepreneur, too.
If you know which type you are, you can tailor your workday around this idea, which may help your productivity and happiness when working from home.
If you’re an abstainer, you could choose to work a full workday without the temptation of distractions such as TV, social media, and all the goods – and you could give yourself a reward for your hard work after the entire workday is done.
Or if you are a moderator that does well with little treats as motivation, you can give yourself personal breaks in the middle of the day. When working from home, let yourself watch an episode of your favorite show, take a long lunch, have a bath – or a cupcake, as it were!
It simply depends on how you work, and what approach works best for you.
An idea that might help you decide which works best is to ask yourself if doing the thing will actually create more long-term happiness as a result, or more short-term happiness? If it’s the latter, is it worth the temptation or results?
Knowing how your personality works is a key to staying happy and healthy in your life. Everyone’s different quirks are what makes the world go round and knowing how to utilize your personality strengths and weaknesses is going to help your business, and your life, in the long run!
How about you?
Do you agree with this method?
Are you an abstainer, or a moderator?
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